You know that moment: you spot someone across a crowded room, bus, or produce section. You’d love to meet — but what the heck can you say to a complete stranger that won’t come off as dorky or desperate? Try one of these real-world icebreakers that singles swear by. Why? Because these lines earned them plenty of dates!

Flirt with a fly-by
“My best icebreaking technique is what I call the ‘fly-by.’ It’s where you make witty comments of a relevant nature as you walk by the person who interests you. For example, this one time I saw a guy in the grocery store who was really attractive. So, as I passed him in the cereal aisle I said, ‘Buy the Frosted Flakes — sure, it’s all sugar, but everyone needs to eat like a kid now and then.’ Later, when I saw him again in a different aisle, I said, ‘We have to stop meeting like this!’ and finally, when we were near each other in the checkout line, I said, ‘Care to chill out over coffee after all this decision-making?’ He accepted!”
— Elizabeth Flanagan, Chicago, IL
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Try the direct approach
“I have approached people in grocery stores, on the street, pretty much anywhere, and the best conversation starter I’ve found is just to say what I’m thinking. I’ll say something like, ‘Hi. My name is Josh, and I just wanted to let you know I find you incredibly attractive.’ Everyone on this planet likes to be found attractive. And even if they don’t want to date you, most people will graciously accept your compliment.”
— Josh Prince, New York, NY

Take a survey
“Sometimes I pretend I’m doing a survey for research purposes. People just assume it’s for a school or work project. My best ‘survey’ approach is to ask guys to tell me what they think the ratio in this particular spot is of those who are out to actually meet someone to date versus those who are just out to have a good time with their friends. It allows you to go up to anyone and just start talking…both men and women! And you don’t have to worry about coming across as hitting on anyone. It’s all in the name of research!”
— Amy Brewer, New York, NY

Play some games
“My friends and I like to play the typical old-school games while we’re out — pool, darts, foosball, etc. — and you can use these games as an excuse to talk to whatever cutie you’ve been eyeing. For example, I walk up to a person I find attractive and say something like, ‘Hey, my friends and I are playing doubles at the pool table, but my partner left. Do you mind helping me out?’ It takes a lot of pressure off meeting someone because you’re both being active, which leads to a more natural conversation starter, like: ‘I can’t believe you made that shot! Do you play a lot?’ versus sitting at a table trying to force witty banter. I actually met two guys with this little trick.”
— Shannon Hamilton, Arlington, VA

Lay on the flattery
“One of the best ways to meet men is to pay them a compliment. Not just by saying ‘nice tie’ or whatever, but something really flattering. For example, one time on the way to the ladies room at a restaurant where I was having dinner alone, I noticed a very well-dressed man. On the way back I stopped at his table and said, ‘You are simply the best-dressed man I have seen in a very long time’ and then proceeded on to my table. Within about five minutes, he came to my table and asked if he could join me for dessert. My answer was yes.”
— Gloria Starr, Charlotte, NC

Ask a question
“If I’m going to try to chat someone up, I make sure that my opening line invites a conversation. So if I see a woman picking up some curry sauce at Trader Joe’s, I’ll say, ‘Excuse me, I’ve always seen that sauce and wondered about it. How can you use it? Is it very spicy?’ Or, if I’m at a music store, I’ll ask a woman in the classical section something like, ‘Excuse me, I’m just getting into classical music. Can you recommend something?’ In my experience, these kinds of questions really get you and the other person talking about your shared interests — which is a great way to bond.”
— Henry Bloomberg, Boston, MA

A little humor and humility can’t hurt
“I like to use what I call the ‘no-line’ pick-up line. I mosey over and say something innocent, like: ‘Excuse me for interrupting; I can see you’re busy reading (studying, working, whatever). You caught my attention, so I thought I would risk public humiliation by introducing myself.’ My theory is that it doesn’t really matter much what you say. If she’s keen, she’ll pick up the ball and respond in kind.”
— Bob Shepherd, San Diego, CA

Kimberly Dawn Neumann (www.KDNeumann.com) is a New York City-based freelance writer whose work has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Women’s Health, Marie Claire, Maxim and more. A frequent online contributor for Match.com’s Happen magazine, she’s also the author of The Real Reasons Men Commit as well as the founder of www.DatingDivaDaily.com.



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